SETTING LIMITS

I think a very important thing in a relationship is that you set your limits, that is, that you let your boy/girl know very clear what you will do and what you won´t do. And yes, mostly I am refering to sex, because if you dont have it clear in your head, then you might end up doing things you didn´t want to do in the first place, and that would be so hurting for you and so sad, because I think having serious regrets in the sexual theme is something very serious.
Everyone has their own limits, maybe something that is very important and hard for me, is something you don´t care about,or viceversa. That can also be translated into the sexual theme, because we are all different. But what is clear is that everyone shoul have very clear what his/her limits are. And they are called limits for one reason, that is, not to go further than those limits. Because one thing is totally clear: if you overstep whatever your limits are,you are lost. You will go further and further and someone who lives without limit regrets it later. There have to be things or acts that you forbid to your own self, and therefore know what you have to do and what you shouldn´t do.
Let´s put a non-sexual example first and then a sexual one so that you get what i mean okay?
Imagine you sometimes "steal" some cash from your parents. You look into their belongings and if you find some coins you take them. But if there are no coins, just ticket, you don´t take them. Tickets are your limit. You do take coins, but not tickets. But if one day your mom has no coins and she has maybe eight 5-dollar ticket and you decide to take one because she has a lot and she won´t notice. That moment you are overstepping your limits, and that could be very dangerous. Because now, in terms of stealing money from your father, you have no limit, and you will steal everyday more and more valuable tickets with absolutely no control. You have ignored your limit.
Now a sexual example. This is a very hypothetical situation okay maybe it may sound silly. Imagine you have a new boyfriend and you decide that until you have been dating for 6 months you won´t let him idk touch certain parts of your body, you know, intimate parts of your body. As I said,everyone has their own limits okay, maybe someone would let his boyfriend touch him two weeks after they start dating, or 5 months or one year. But imagine if one night imagine you´re alone at his house and idk you start making out and you lose control of yourself and you let him touch you in places when you had absolutely no intention of it happening. Uh oh, you have overstepped your limit, and now you might start doing all kinds of things that you didn´t plan in first place. And that may lead to you losing yourself. So be careful. One thing I would do was not to put myself in situations where I know I am more likely to do things that overstep my limits, for example, not staying alone in my bf´s house for too long, less at night, less in his bedroom IN HIS BED. But as I said each one of you knows what she should or shouldn´t do, and even more, NEVER DO ANYTHING IF YOU DON´T WANT TO. That´s very important. You can always say NO or STOP okay.
I hope I explained myself correctly :)
xoxo

DON´T OFFER FRIENSHIP TO SOMEONE WHO WANTS LOVE

Hi babes!
Okay, so although your baby boyfriend should obviously be also your friend, your best friend, love and frienship are very different things. And there are some times when someone who loves another person is offered friendship by that other person, and that, my loves, that can´t be, I´m sorry.
Let´s see, imagine, I don´t know, let´s say, Tom and Anna are best friends okay, and Tom is in love with Anna, and he can´t be her friend anymore because that just makes him suffer because now just friendship isn´t the relationship he´s looking forward too. He may be scared to hell to tell her, of course, because if Anna doesn´t feel the same way then their friendship will break, because you can´t be friends with someone you love, that´s like a life rule. So guys I´m just saying that if you´re this Anna girl and you don´t feel the way "Tom" feels, don´t offer him friendship instead of love, because that can be so frustrating and hard. I understand you will be sad to lose that friendship, but i don´t know, maybe stay a little back for a while until his feelings go down a little bit because staying next to him will only hurt more. And if you really care for that other person you should want his best.
Or if you know someone who is a close friend is starting to like you, try to limit contact with that person, because if someone is starting to be into you, and you are all the time joking, playing, or even innocently flirting, that can increase his/her feelings and make he/she think you like her/him. So if you don´t feel the same way, although at first the other person might be a little bit startled by your sudden change of behaviour, the fairest thing for that person is if you do your best to stop that person from liking you, I know we all like to be liked by someone, but after a while, that person will ask for something more than friendship and if you don´t feel the same way and reject him/her, he/she will blame you for making him/her believe you loved him/her.
So although sometimes it might be hard, think if you were that other person, don´t offer friendship to someone who wants love. It´s not fair.