BOYFRIEND ADVICE ;)

Hello guys :)
so for anyone of you who might just have started a new relationship or something and is a bit lost or here is some useful advice about boyfriends:

1- TELL YOUR PARENTS - you may think I´m crazy but I think it´s very important that you do. Your parents love you a lot and take care of you and deserve to know what´s going on in your life. If you have a boyfriend, you should tell them,not every single detail but at least the basic information. And remember they can´t forbid you to have one, they can like it more or less, but it´s your life and you have a boyfriend if you want.

2- FRIENDSHIP BEFORE YOUR BOYFRIEND - I think this is lile the most important rule. You can never forget your friends when you have a boyfriend. Friends will always be there for you and you can´t betray them by forgetting about them. I think having a boyfriend is a great occasion to demonstrate that you are a good friend. You have to continue going out with your friends, and don´t be absorbed by your boyfriend. Friends are the ones who accompain you in the bad and good moments and if you leave them apart, they might get very hurt and upset, and will have all the right to feel so. Because if you abandom them you will regret it. Imagine one of your friends got a new boyfriend and spend every single second with him, how would you feel? so prove you´re a good friend okay?

3 - DON´T DO ANYTHING YOU DON´T WANT TO - this is also very important guys. DONT EVER DO ANYTHING YOU DON´T WANT TO okay, its yourself and you control your own actions, you are the owner of your body and yo do whatever you want with it. Not what your boyfriend does. And don´t do it because your boyfriend tells you or asks you, if you don´t want to he should respect you. And if he loves you like he says he does, he shouldn´t make you do anything you wouldn´t do.

4 - NEVER KEEP ANYTHING TO YOURSELF - if there´s anything you want to tell your boyfriend, any worries or doubt or questions, you should always go and tell him. Because if you start keeping secrets or things to yourself, that might make the relationship more difficult than it is. So I think that if there´s anything about the relationship that worries you, you should tell him, it´s the fairest thing for both of you.

5 - TRUST HIM AND MAKE HIM TRUST YOU - I think trust and respect are the most important things in a relationship. So trust him, believe him, but don´t be innocent and silly, if he gives you enough reasons to distrust him then get serious okay. And also you should prove him that he can trust you, don´t do suspicious things haha

6 - SACRIFICE - In a relatioship everything won´t always be easy and perfect and wonderland. There will be difficult times and you need to be willing to do sacrifices for the other person, as well as he should also be preapred to do the same for you.

7- MAKE SURE YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS SERIOUS - this might sound crazy, but there are boys who tell their girlfriends they go serious but then to their friends they might just call you "friend with benefits", and that is SO WRONG. So define with him what kind of relationship you have and make sure he acts like he should. And if you want something serious and he doesn´t then don´t mind him leave him it doesn´t have to be what he wants. You are so worthy and if he´s silly enough not to realize, he doesn´t deserve you.

8 - DON´T ABUSE OF THE PRESENCE OF EACH OTHER - he´s your boyfriend, not your shadow. It´s okay if you try to see each other as much as possible but you don´t have to be every single hour of the day chatting or with your boyfriend. That will only lead to one thing: you getting tired of the other, and we don´t want this okay?

9 - DON´T STALK EACH OTHER - you are dating and you have assumed a compromise with the other person, but that doesn´t mean you have to know where he is and who he is with every single second of the day. You have to respect each other´s freedom, if not the relationship might turn stressing. And also, if you trust him you wouldn´t have to be worrying about what he´s doing.

so this are a little advice I gave you which I hope you found useful!

lots of love
xxxxx

LOVE OR LUST?

So I found this poem on tumblr and it left me wondering. In case you didn´t get very well what the poem is about, it´s about a girl who loves a boy and is willing to give him what he apparently wants, that is, sex. But as she is into it, she realizes that´s not the way, that he doesn´t love her, he just WANTS HER, wants her to give him pleasure, but not out of love, out of LUST. It is very clear that she doesn´t want to, she says she feels empty and she know that is not the way they should do it. But we can also see she wants him so much, she kind of worships him, so she does as he wants. Its sad, because we can also see the girl loved him, but the boy just lusted over her. At the end, we can see he says "I want you", and something about it feels wrong, at least in my opinion. He says "I want you", istead of "I love you". I´m not judging anyone who falls for a boy who only wants sex at all okay, because if i were in that situation i don´t know what i would do, I hope I would be able to resist, but I can´t be completely sure about it. What I´m trying to say is that you have to think it seriously and be sure before you give yourself to a boy. Because when you do that, you are giving your whole self, every little piece and inch of you, and if that´s not really what you want, then don´t do it, because later you will feel bad and it will be worse. You cant confuse LOVE with LUST, it starts with the same letter, both words have four letters,but thery are so so different from each other. LUST is"uncontrolled or illicit sexual desire or appetite" , whereas love is a completely different thing. Be careful okay, don´t be like this girl, that is so blinded by the love she feels towards this guy that isn´t able to say no. I´m not saying you shouldnt have sex or anything, not at all, I´m saying that if you sleep with someone it´s because you want to, sex should not be something you feel dirty or regretful about after you practice it, it should leave you happy and with clean thoughts. And also, I´m not saying every guy who wants to have sex with you is a jerk or a pervert, I´m just saying that you should be able to identify if a guy WANTS you, DESIRES you, or LOVES you, because definetly its not the same thing.